I Can Help.
We are a self-serving people.
Controlling our emotions, embracing who we are while still striving to be better, and grasping that Absolute Power that I always refer too, is hard work. It's not natural, and I should know, I’m the one that writes the blogs and I still need to actively remind myself about the things I've written. There are times I know I’m wrong. I’m well aware that I’m acting like an idiot (or worse like a child) and I still have a hard time bringing myself out of that funk. My fiance is probably reading this rolling her eyes because she knows how selfish and stubborn I’m capable of being. Major or minor, though, our problems are our problems, and the actual size or how we view them is irrelevant.
What is relevant, is how we choose (keyword) to respond to the said situation.
For the 5 years, I worked in banking, and this will sound a little strange when I say it, so please take it with a grain of salt, there were days I really didn’t want to help anyone. I mean that sounds awful right? Here I am in a customer service position, and inside I was huffing and puffing every time a customer walked through our doors. You might be thinking, “Shoot you ain’t crazy, I feel this way every single day!” Whether or not that’s you, I think we can all agree that we’ve seen people who wear this feeling on their face. We’ve all experienced that fast food worker, waiter/waitress, retail clerk, or the receptionist at the doctor’s office that wanted no parts of their job that day and went out of their way to make sure everyone knew about it.
Now, don’t worry. I helped all of my customers with a smile and gave them my best effort (well maybe not my absolute best), but they often left with their situation resolved and a smile on their face. Many times people liked the service I gave them so much they would come back and refer to me as their personal banker. They even told their friends and family about me, and when the time was right they would come in asking me for my help. Truth is I didn’t always want to do my job, but I was good at it. Sound familiar?
While there are many good people in our world, helping out, being nice, and thinking of others, for the majority is not natural. We’re selfish. We want our politics enforced, our sports teams to win, our schools to be good, our husband to shut up, our kids to listen, and a parking spot up front with our food out before we even order it! Phew!
That kind of thinking is way more natural. Just because something is not natural, though, doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t work at it. We need to allow ourselves the chance to grow and an opportunity to keep learning, then we can choose (keyword) to be better. Remember when it comes to the situations we are faced with, just like when I worked in banking, it’s not about how we feel initially. It’s about the discipline we are able to exhibit and how we respond to the situation.
Think about the way we talk to our significant other, our children, the people we work with and for, the kids we teach and coach, and the strangers we interact with day in and day out. The universe does not revolve around you (and I’m talking to you too Marques!), yet we have this expectation that all things should be working in our favor. Believe me, it’s important to think about yourself and make sure you’re taken care of, but don’t take those feelings or emotions of selfishness and put them it into action.