Every single day people do things that they don’t want to do. It will never change. Ever. Here’s a great example: I hate showering. I try and be one of the most positive, optimistic, and motivating people, but when it comes to showering, it seems like it takes every fiber of my body to get me in there. Why do I shower, though, I mean what is it that really gets me in there? As Adam Sandler famously said in Big Daddy, I guess I don’t want to be the “smelly kid in class”!
This idea can be applied to so many things in life, from sitting in traffic to get two work, cutting the grass, changing diapers, and my greatest nemesis…the dishes. I mean honestly, it's like Vince Vaughn said, why would anybody want to do the dishes?
Life’s weird like that. There’s a lot of stuff that you “have” to do. I put quotes around the word, have, because technically you don’t have to do things like take a shower or put gas in your car. Just between you and me, though, you better have some pretty comfy walking shoes or the Uber app downloaded. With that said, there’s also a lot of stuff you really don’t have to do!
For me, I didn’t have to work at a bank. I didn’t constantly have to live with this uneasy feeling as I drove in to work. I just felt like I had to try too hard, and it wasn’t really for me to begin with. I equate it to people who always say, “relationships are a lot of work,” or the ones who say, "when you love something or someone it isn’t work." So, which one is it?
Look, I love my daughter. I love my fiance. But I work every single day to be a good dad and a good future husband. It just so happens to be way easier to deal with the work because I love them both so much!
Doing something that you don’t necessarily want to do is way easier when love, passion, or goals are involved. I mean you don't have to go to Columbia to know that. Waiting tables sucks. Paying off your student loans doesn’t. Getting my Master’s degree sucked. Living my life exactly how I want doesn’t.
Imagine trying to get somewhere you’ve never been. The directions you have are from some weird lady with a strange accent you met at a rest stop. You’ve been driving for 40 minutes and it was only supposed to take 25, that “this ain't good” feeling sets in and you finally hit the brakes and do a U-turn.
Truth is, the college you’re at, the relationship you’re in, the house you live in, or job you have shouldn’t be treated any different. Ask yourself, why I am doing what I do? If you don’t have an enthusiastic elevator pitch defending what it is you’re up to these days or a strong reason for doing it, maybe it's about time you tested out how hard you can slam your brakes.
Ultimately, there’s a big difference between having a low desire to shower (and doing it anyway) and not wanting to turn your car around because you’re convinced the address is “just a few miles away”. In life, it doesn't matter whether you missed the exit…three times. Made a left turn instead of a right. Or, drove past four traffic lights instead of two, you can always turn back. Plans are allowed to change, it's not against the rules. We just need to make sure we act accordingly once we truly recognize this isn't the right way for us!