People love to say that they don’t care what people think of them. Truth is, I think they do. They might, however, just not care enough to change how they think, act, dress, walk, or talk. Take me for example, I know for a fact people think I’m corny or I smile too much and just laugh at everything (what can I say…laughing burns calories and helps my abs). I mean I care, in a sense, because it obviously sucks having they, whoever DJ Khaled says they are, think that. Honestly (and I’m smiling and shrugging my shoulders as I write this), they’re probably right! And I’m hopeful that I’ll be doing more of it as God pours down His favor upon me.
The beautiful thing about this world is we do have an unbelievable ability (especially with social media) to express ourselves, and whether we think about it or not, it’s something we do on a daily basis. I’m a firm believer that we should try our best to focus on ourselves and what we can offer other people. That’s why I absolutely love writing this blog. But the more I observe and the more I read, I realize that when people are on their A-Game, I mean truly in the zone and at their best, they are usually focused, well-rested, and happy. Fortunately for you, in this post, I will only be talking about the latter. Throughout this weekend, and as we get ready for this week, I want you to concentrate and really be mindful of how happy you are letting yourself be.
On a daily basis people wake up and immediately worry about outworking, out-hustling, and outperforming their friends, peers, or co-workers. Whoever the competition might be, we put on your something smells face and think “There’s no way you’re doing more than me today!” Those methods and ideas certainly have there place, and I respect anyone who is bringing that type of maximum effort on a daily basis. But what if in the midst of all that, we’re missing something? What if we’re directing too much of our attention in the wrong areas? I wonder how much different, and potentially less stressful, our lives would be if instead of trying to do more than everyone, we made the decision to “out-happy” everyone. Seriously, how amazing would it be if that type of attitude became contagious?
Not gonna lie, take it or leave it, but I think a lot of those “other things” would just fall in to place.
And before you go there, no I’m not an idiot. I know and understand in work, life, and even sports, performance matters. Unfortunately, what really sucks is there’s no scoreboard for happiness. Imagine how different the conversations around the dinner table would be if it were something that could be tracked. I’m confident that your sales, win totals, work production, quality time with family, etc. would all follow the happiness trend lines. Too many people, though, still think it’s the other way around. In You’re Not Unhappy…Right Now, I talked about people who are holding their happiness in and waiting for that one thing to happen. Don’t rely on Q2’s sales numbers, how your classroom performed on the state assessment’s, or what your boss says in your mid-year review to determine whether you are allowed to be happy or not.
One of my pet peeves is people who visibly show how much they hate their job (or current situation). To the lady at Subway making my sandwich, I know it might not be thrilling work, but you don’t need to harm my salami and show me how much you hate putting on a new pair of gloves for every sandwich. A few months back I was at Kroger in the self-checkout area, when a young high school kid approached me. He asked with a smile if I found everything I needed, opened up all the plastic bags so I could easily put my groceries away, and told me and Ava to have an awesome night! As I was walking out of the store, thinking to myself that kid’s going places, I asked for the store manager. I wanted to make sure someone, especially a superior, recognized his work ethic and his “out-happy everyone at Kroger” attitude.
Given the two types of attitudes, think about it. Which one would you rather work with, live with, build a family with or offer a promotion to? Or more importantly, which one would you rather be? And don’t bother asking me…there’s no need to answer, because I would just laugh, smile, and show off the dimples!