You! Yes you! The person holding their phone or sitting at their computer…you matter! As you were getting ready this morning did you look in the mirror and in your best Will Smith impression say, “I make this look good”? My guess is no, because it’s not too often that we actively tell ourselves how awesome we are and how much we matter! And as you're reading this if you aren't thinking like that, get started because believe me you are a big deal. I know so many of you, and what’s even more amazing is not only are you a big deal, but so are your families (and yes that includes your mother-in-law). And while I’m at it, so is the job you have (that’s okay if it’s not the job you want), the church you attend, and the community that you are a part of.
I’ll be honest, I have a love hate relationship with social media. On the plus side I’m able to communicate with so many people, and friends and family I’m unable to stay in contact with know what I’m up too, and how awesome my daughter, Ava, is. But it’s because of Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, Vine, YouTube, and blah blah blah blah blah that we are almost too aware of what everyone is doing. Let’s be clear, there is an enormous difference between keeping up with the travels, new health journeys, or cute babies of friends, families, or frenemies (look it up) than just creeping on somebody and being jealous about whatever it is they might or might not be doing.
An example of this is a few years back when I got on Facebook and watched this video that went viral of a dad who took his young daughter on her first date. I thought that’s so awesome, I have to do that for Ava! Watching that video inspired me to be a better father, and I’m always hopeful that the videos or photos I put up inspire someone else to be a great dad or a better mother.
We all need to do a little less looking at others and realize how awesome we, meaning you, truly are! It doesn’t matter if you are a stay at home mom or dad, a teacher, pastor, truck driver, attorney, bartender, cook, pilot, cat lady, or just someone’s best friend…you matter, you have purpose, and you are a big deal. I believe, along with countless others, that you are here for a reason. You are reading this blog for a reason. And, whether you believe it or not, you are exactly where you’re supposed to be!
Understand, I have been there. The should-woulda-couldas and if I had done this, that, or the other do not matter (grabs megaphone) I repeat do not matter…at all. There is no alternate universe where you broke up with that girl or that guy sooner, didn’t have that serious injury, weren’t passed over for the promotion, or didn’t have that child (Most all of you know I had Ava when I was 22 years old, and if someone would’ve showed me what my life would look like at 30 I’d pick it every time and that’s just me keeping it very real). Besides, if that universe did exist you’d be begging (I’m talking on your knees like Scrooge) to get back to where you are now!
Stop looking at other people for validation of how awesome you are. Go about your day with a confidence that nobody, I mean nobody, is better at being you than you! Get to that weird crevice in the back of your closet, find your swag, and kick today’s ass. Because I’ll tell you what, when you are at the top of your game there is no one like you. This post is for the amazing mothers, the unbelievably awesome dads, the men and women who get up at all different hours of the day (or night) and make the world go ‘round. Get better at training your mind to feel brand new and rejuvenated each and every morning, because I know there’s a lot of you know what that wouldn’t get done if it wasn’t for you. Remember, you rock and you matter!
I want to add, if you know someone who you think is going through something or feeling under-appreciated, do them a favor and send them this link. They deserve to have the same feeling you and I are sharing right now!