You're Not Unhappy...Right Now.
Welcome to 2017! First things first, I cannot thank you enough for clicking the link, supporting me, and taking a few minutes out of your day to set the tone for this month. If you haven't already done so, please check out New Year, New Perspective, I think that post really sets this one up nicely.
There is a bigger, better version of myself and I am going to do everything I can to become him. Too many people in life are just waiting to be happy, and when I say happy, I mean the turn your mind off and just enjoy life type of happiness that most of us are enjoying in spurts. Believe me, I have to actively tell my brain not to think like that, but I’d be lying if I said there aren’t times when I fall in to the trap or believe the illusion that I should be in a different place or a better place in my life.
Even though I can’t see you, raise your hand if you, at some point, have said the following:
I’ll be happy once I’m done with school.
I’ll be happy once I find someone to be with.
I’ll be happy once I get a new job.
I’ll be happy once I retire.
I’ll be happy once I’m out of debt.
I’ll be happy once this week is over.
I’ll be happy once my significant other is happier.
Understand one thing, I am not saying you aren’t living a great life and enjoying yourself. But let’s be honest here, is there a difference between the Saturday morning version of yourself versus the Monday morning? And if there is, there’s nothing wrong with that. You are human. Of course you’re going to feel better sleeping in and enjoying a cup of coffee in your pajamas versus being stuck in traffic still trying to put on your makeup or tie your tie. That’s the whole point of this blog, recognize that you can enjoy your life even more. And the first step is to understand during those moments of frustration, anger, and anxiety you are actually not unhappy.
If I lost you there for a second let me drop a pin and try and help you get to my location. I believe there is no one that is unhappy right now, and for the sake of my ego I hope not because that would mean I’m to blame. But for those of us that are struggling with our job, when you’re at work and thinking about how you can’t wait to be done (the I’ll be happy when I’m done with work moment), think to yourself what is it really that’s making you so upset that you’re not going to allow yourself to enjoy the next 8 hours of your day? Is it that you wish you didn’t take the job, because that’s something that’s in the past. Maybe you feel like you’re job is too stressful and that you can’t meet the deadlines, in that case you would be worried about the future. Even if something happened at work that made you unhappy, once it’s over it’s in the past (for my Disney fans this is the point in the blog where Rafiki would reach through the computer and hit you in the head with a stick). It seems to me that the present always gets lost in translation, and if you don’t believe me check out the self help industry! They are always trying to figure out ways to get people to live in the present… and it’s a billion dollar industry.
I’m a big numbers person and enjoy statistics so maybe this might help put things in to perspective. There are 8,760 hours in a year. Let’s just say on average that you sleep 8 hours (and some of you might be thinking you haven’t had 8 hours of sleep since you were in elementary school, but just work with me) that adds up to 2,920 hours. Of the remaining 5,840 hours that you have in a year if you work 8 hours and took two weeks vacation you would be at work for 2,000 of those hours! My point is I don’t want to see you just getting by for a 1/3rd of the year. The work example is just one of many, my hope is that you understand the point that I am trying to make. By no means, though, do I expect you to always be as happy as when you’re on vacation, or when your son or daughter runs in to your arms after a long day of work, or the feeling you have when you do meet that special someone. This is simply a tool to help you understand the mind frame we get in sometimes when it comes to how we’re feeling. Take a deep breath, what’s in the past is in the past, what’s in the future hasn’t happened yet, and right now, at this moment, you are happy!