Based in columbus, ohio, absolute power is a blog by marques parks. His posts are meant to provide authentic and relatable content that helps to motivate and inspire people of all ages.

My Brand New Shoes.

My Brand New Shoes.

It all begins with you. If you do not take care of yourself, you will not be strong enough to take care of anything in life.
— Leon Brown

My Brand New Shoes

A couple of months ago I went out and bought a fresh new pair of Nike’s. They are royal blue with a black pattern, black laces, and have an all white bottom that makes them look so clean. I absolutely love these shoes! As I tried on the size 10.5 shoe I could feel myself getting super excited, I had been looking for a new pair of shoes for weeks (one thing you should know about me is that I don’t ever buy something just to buy it) but none of them called out to me like these ones did. I slowly stood up from lacing up the right shoe and checked them out in the mirror, looking at them from a couple different angles only to solidify that I did it! I found the kicks I had been searching so long for, and with one swipe of my debit card and the receipt placed in the bag, I was handed my brand new shoes.

So you’re probably wondering why I told you such an in depth story about buying a pair of shoes at the Nike store at Tanger Outlet. Well boys and girls, you guessed it, there’s a moral to this little story and I firmly believe that it is something that we all can relate too. See, this time it was shoes, but it could have been a new suit, a new TV, a computer, getting a new job, or even meeting that special someone. And yes, you heard me correctly I am equating my new shoe purchase to something much greater, finding a new job or even meeting that special someone. You have to understand that the shoe story doesn’t just end when I walk out the door, much like your job doesn’t end when you first accept the position or even when that girl or guy that you’ve liked for 2 months decides to take you up on that date offer. 

If you’re still not on the same page, I want you to think about the raggedy shoes that you mow the lawn in or go get the mail in when it’s raining. You know the ones I’m talking about, they’ve got grass stains all over them and the laces are frayed at the tips because that little plastic piece fell off 3 years ago. My friends that know me well have heard me go through this analogy before, and I’ll be honest it is something that I know is true. Regardless of how big or small you might think not taking care of shoes is is irrelevant (unless you’re spending too much on shoes and could just be taking better care of what you got) because I’m trying to hint at the bigger picture. Let me just take a quick second to mention that I still have shoes from high school and college because I do take pride in taking care of things the best I can. But as painful as it is to admit I had some all white Air Force One’s, back when Nelly’s songs were changing lives, and they later became the grass-cutting shoes at my pap’s house when I would take care of his lawn. Because let’s be honest, it’s hard! It’s hard to keep caring as much for those shoes or that new dress, and maybe we wear them somewhere we shouldn’t or stop getting it dry cleaned because it’s too expensive or even worse maybe we’ve found something even newer and better!

Think about your job when you first got started or a relationship that you’re in now or one that you were. “Everything’s great in the beginning” is a saying for a reason. It’s easy, it’s natural, it’s fun….it’s new, and it’s all we care about. I went to a catholic school from Kindergarten up until 6th grade and I had to wear a uniform, and as my 6th grade school year came to a close I remembering writing out pros and cons to my mom about why I should attend public school. One of my pros, although I doubt it was one of my parents’, was that I was going to get to wear whatever I wanted every single day of the year! Long story short, I ended up getting to attend public school in 7th grade and I’ll never forget how amazing it was going school shopping in the summer. Picking out all these new clothes, putting them on lay-away (do people even do that anymore?) and showing up for the first few weeks of school geared up and looking so fresh and so clean, clean! I loved my clothes, I loved my shoes, and as it turns out I also loved playing football at recess and coming home and not changing in to my “play-clothes”. Needless to say, I was picking out new clothes once Christmas break rolled around. The point I’m trying to make is that we, as humans, often times take the same approach when it comes to our career, our hobbies, and the relationships we’ve worked so hard to build!

Odds are, back in the day, you probably showed up on that first day of work early and eager, freshly pressed shirt or a new skirt and a brand new attitude. Odds are when you went on that first date, not only were you on your best behavior, I’m sure you were going the extra mile trying to make that special someone as happy as can be. Flash forward 2 months, a year, or even 5 years. Can you look in the mirror and still see that same person? The same goes for parents too! I know I am constantly reminding myself even though my daughter is 8 years old and can take care of her self much more than she could at 8 days, that doesn’t give me a free pass to be less involved. So…what happened? Was it our shoes, our kids, our job, our girlfriend or boyfriend that became less interesting? Being the shoe lover that I am I highly doubt that they were the problem! Or did we slowly, like everything else, just stop paying as much attention to the details?

Look, I can empathize with people that might not have the best work environment, or a struggling relationship with a son, daughter, or significant other. But for all of those things that are out of your control you need to only focus on what you can control. I challenge you to start taking more positive steps and get back to being the person that was in the interview room, the restaurant on the first date, or the hospital room when your child was first born. Take a deep breath and think for a few seconds, close your eyes, and remember that feeling you once had for something that might not be there right now. It was a good feeling, and you felt it for a reason. Sometimes in life, just like my shoes, you’re going to step in some mud (or worse…insert poop emoji!) and get scuffed up a little bit. You can’t let things slip away from you and continue to toss everything in the dirty old shoe pile, because as the saying goes, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure.” 

And just so you know, the shoes I’m wearing in the picture are now 4 months old…looking Day 1 fresh!

Football Cleats.

Football Cleats.

The Calm Before The Storm.

The Calm Before The Storm.

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