New Year, New Perspective.
I hope everyone reading this throughly enjoyed their holiday with friends and family (and if you didn't...read on). As we approach a fresh start in 2017 I must say I always find it interesting when people try and fight the New Year’s Resolutioners. These so called “Grinch’s of New Years” actually become bothered by people who want to better themselves. And yes I know, the statistics are daunting. Forbes wrote an article in 2013 stating only 8% of people reach their New Years Resolution goal. If you ask me, a lot of that has to do with people, unfortunately, setting the bar entirely to high and then quitting when they realize how hard this is going to be. What I take away from that is at least those people were better for a day, a month, six months, etc. I might be generalizing, but maybe the group that looks on at all these people with despising eyes is, for some reason, unhappy with themselves. Who knows, you might be one of these people, or maybe you just might experience some unhappiness here and there. Either way, I want to equip with a different way to look at your situation, because I truly believe if you can change your frame of mind you are capable of making 2017 your best year.
Take a moment and really think about your current situation. What is going on in your life? How do those things make you feel? Chances are, just like everybody else, you are going through something right now. One thing that I learned during my time as a personal banker is everyday people are going through life changes. You could be graduating from high school soon, maybe you have a child that is entering their freshman year of college, or you’re changing jobs, or just found out you’re expecting a child (if so congrats because that’s awesome)! Whatever the case may be, there are few times in life where we can just take a deep breath, kick our feet up, and not have a care in the world. Yes, we could do that for an hour, maybe a couple of days, heck even a month, but something is going to change and you might not feel as “happy” as you once did.
Happiness is such a fickle term to me. It can mean so many different things to so many different people, so as your reading this I want you to make sure that you’re only thinking about what happiness means to you. A lot of people say that being happy is a choice, so if you are not interested in becoming happier I will not be offended at all if you hit the little “X” on your browser. But if you want to be happy, which I hope you do, then hopefully some of the ideas I’m going to discuss will be tools you can use throughout your days and weeks moving forward. Ask yourself what kind of person are you when things aren’t going exactly as planned, or when you’re not exactly where you want to be? I mean let’s be honest we’ve all been there. We’ve all had that moment when life got flipped upside down, kind of like Will Smith in the early 90s! But after we get through it, because we always do, we realize that we were not being our best. Or, we realize that we were simply existing for that period of time until we got through it. Depending on what the situation was maybe a week went by, or a month, or worse a whole year, and it’s super tough to swallow the fact that is time you are never, ever going to get back!
I want to make sure I devote enough time to this topic so I'm breaking it up in to two posts, the second half will be posted January 3, 2017! Your homework, though, as we approach the end of the year is to think about (and by all means write them down if you need to) what circumstances you feel are keeping you from being happier. Are you struggling with school or work, maybe you’re unhappy because your single or you’re having trouble getting out of debt? There are literally millions of reasons to not allow yourself to fully be happy, but the first step you can take is understanding you can and are allowed to be happy in the present, regardless of your situation.